10 Signs Your Husband Secretly Hates You
10 Signs Your Husband Secretly Hates You
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Did you ever meet a person who seemed to genuinely despise their spouse? It's a common issue that many people like to think would never happen to them. Yet, many marriages fall apart due to one partner resenting or even hating the other.
Are you worried that your husband doesn't actually like you? These signs suggest that he might actually hate you.
He abuses you.
Contrary to popular belief, abusers can control their tempers. They can stop hurting you if they want to. They are actively choosing to hurt you because it makes them feel good—either consciously or unconsciously.
Abusers don't hit their bosses because they respect their bosses. They don't hit their mothers because they love them. If you're being physically or verbally abused, your partner doesn't love you. He hates you and is letting you know it's time to leave.
He makes jokes about hating you, hurting you, or leaving.
A lot of people tend to use jokes as a way to hide what they're really feeling. If you notice that he's constantly joking about hitting you, divorcing you, or cheating on you, there's likely a deep-seated hatred brewing beneath the surface.
This is especially true if you're the only person your husband is "joking" about in that matter.
When you tell him something upsets you, he still keeps doing it or ramps it up.
A person who loves you will not want to upset you. If he makes a point of doing the very things that you've begged him not to, it's likely because he wants to upset you. People who ignore your suffering or exacerbate it don't like you.
Think about how you treat people you care about. Would you go out of your way to upset them just to get a laugh? Probably not.
You overheard him talking about you, and it's not nice.
Let's make one thing clear: if someone is saying gnarly things about you behind your back, chances are high they wish they could say those things to your front. Even if their smack-talking isn't true, it speaks volumes about who they are as people and where you stand.
Most of the time, a person who badmouths you doesn't like you. They may not even respect you. It's a done deal.
He puts you in situations where you're clearly not wanted.
Does it feel like everyone in your husband's entourage has something mean to say to you? Are you constantly put on the defense when it shouldn't ever be that way? If you're noticing a heavy amount of glares from his loved ones and he's not defending you, that's a bad sign.
A lot of men will try to rely on others to force their significant other to dump them. If it seems like he doesn't care how unwelcome you feel around his family, that's a sign that he might be using them as a buffer to keep you at arm's length.
There's no commitment to a joint future despite being married.
Commitment is a good metric for measuring how much a person cares about you. When you're dating, and he won't marry you or let you move in, it's clear that he is not really that into you.
Committing doesn't end with the ring. If you notice him talking about his future plans without you, or even changing the subject when you ask him where he sees the two of you, that could be a sign that he stopped loving you.
It feels like you can't really talk to him.
When you're around a person who hates you, it's hard to feel calm around them. It almost feels like you're walking on eggshells around them. You can't ever seem to make them smile. Every quip could turn into an argument. It feels like they'll drop you or detonate any second.
Sound familiar? If that's what your marriage is like, your partner stopped liking you a minute ago.
There's zero physical intimacy going on, even when you try to make it happen.
Unless you're ace, a marriage that has no ongoing intimacy is a serious warning sign. If you constantly deal with a husband who rebuffs you, something is very wrong. In many cases, it's a sign of infidelity, addiction, or depression.
In other cases, this could be a sign that your husband lost interest in you or even hates you. Take a look at other signs on this list to see what could be happening.
He avoids you.
Do you find yourself wondering when he's coming home, why he won't text you back, or why he keeps loading up on work? A man who does not like his wife is a man who will do anything to avoid being around her.
If he's averse to hanging out with you or talking to you, he likely cooled down on his love for you.
The relationship feels dead.
A loveless relationship is one that feels dead. It doesn't feel like "roommates," because roommates generally still have some level of caring and teamwork to them. No, it feels either dead or just downright hate-filled.
When you hang out with your husband, does it feel like you're with someone you don't even know? Yep. That's your sign. It might be time to get divorce papers because your relationship is done.
