Men, Here’s How You Can Tell If You’re With An Insecure Girl (Part 2)
Because an insecure woman is not a good woman for anyone.
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Remember Part 1?
Men, Here’s How You Can Tell If You’re With An Insecure Girl (Part 1)
You might think it’s a good idea to date her, but trust me, you don’t want this
I’ve given you guys the run-by about why insecure women are bad, bad partners. Most of the traits I’ve explained already tend to be linked to women who have narcissism. No cap, narcissists are always insecure.
Now let’s hit Part 2 of this saga. I’m going to start diversifying this menagerie of bad dates.
“I hate you! Don’t leave me!”
This was a quote I remembered reading from a book about Borderline Personality Disorder. Women who are borderline tend to push people away, only to beg them not to leave.
They are often abusive as a way to try to prove to people they’re not worthy of love. When they’re not berating you, they are often clingy to a fault. Suspicious, controlling, and oddly distant, these girls are bad news.
She changes the script to be a Mary Sue.
Guys, beware the girl who is always the victim in all of her stories. Beware the girl who you catch lying about other people in order to make her look good, too.
This is the girl who posts all the nice things on Instgram. She’s always the angel. She can’t stand anyone who makes her look or feel average. Oh, and she’ll fish for compliments harder than a guy on The Most Dangerous Catch fishes for crabs.
Girls like this are very insecure about how others perceive them. Guys often like girls who are insecure enough to ask for compliments, but this is a bad move.
These girls basically run their own PR campaigns. Cross her or dump her, and you can almost certainly expect to deal with nasty rumors at the very least. At worst? She might go so far as to make false allegations against you.
She makes a point of “playing hard to get.”
A lot of insecure people will talk about how other people are into them, and oh, you’re so lucky to be with me. They may reject you off the bat and then get upset if you take their no for an answer.
Guys, this is one of the reasons why you should always take no for an answer — even if you think the woman isn’t serious. It’s a red flag and a great way to get the worst impression on how to deal with women.
You’ll be expected to be a mind reader if you date her. She’ll never tell you what she wants. She will, however, expect you to know it as if you’re Miss Cleo.
Only insecure, immature women expect men to keep chasing them after they’ve pushed them away. If you want to play games, go for an Xbox, not this chick.
You notice that she changes her personality based on what others like.
Does she suddenly stop liking things if people around her say they hate it? Did you notice her doing little things like downplaying things she dislikes, smiling when people insult her, or giving the “please like me” look to everyone?
Do not date a girl who does this. The reason why is because she’s desperate for validation. Worse, she might also be conflict-avoidant. The issue here is that you never know if she likes you for you or because you’re giving her attention.
Dating a girl like this often sours because she will become resentful without you ever realizing it. After all, it’s not like she has the spine to speak up on what she really wants.
Desperation is unattractive by default, but it also happens to be toxic. How can you know if she likes you or if she’s just looking for anyone? If she can’t even admit what she likes or dislikes, you don’t really know who she is.
A lot of men who marry girls like this find themselves in relationships that have one of the following happen:
Blindsided divorces. One day she’s there, the next, she’s in Montana and you were served papers. She has a new lover and it’s not you.
Cheating. Girls like this don’t know how to turn down advances. They are validation junkies, which means that cheating is rife. At times, they cheat with men who are more compatible with them because they are too cowardly to break things off with their main man.
Abuse. Believe it or not, girls who start off desperate often end up resentful of the men who put a ring on it. When they “get a spine,” they tend to take out their resentment on their partners — even if they don’t deserve it.
She’s constantly picking herself apart.
If she constantly makes self-deprecating jokes or keeps talking about how awful she is, she’s deeply insecure. You will likely have to give her near-constant validation and it will get old, really quick.
I know a woman like this. Her partner is miserable.