7 Signs That You Might Be A Misogynist And Not Even Know It
A lot of men think they love women until that love gets under the microscope.
As a writer who interacts with their fanbase, I notice a lot of things about how people react to me. For example, a lot of my readers discuss money — a lot. And it’s not just about like how hard up they are, but how they make it and what they like to spend it on.
Among my male readers, I tend to notice two trends: men who are genuinely fascinated by me and men who are confused or irate over my beliefs. The second group of guys are the ones I want to focus on today.
The most common remarks I hear run along these lines:
“I’m not a misogynist. It’s just that women seem to…”
“The author clearly has a bone to pick with men. She has a bad experience.”
“Why do women keep calling me a misogynist?”
Truth be told, a lot of the guys in this category don’t realize they’re being misogynistic.
When you have a culture that raises you to hate people, it’s not surprising that you end up hating them on a subconscious level. Such is the case with our modern society.
Men are constantly given messages like:
Women are not your equals. Sometimes this is phrased as “women are weaker” or “women are emotional,” but the truth is it boils down to this. Our society turns women into the treacherous “other” and ensures men don’t feel connected to them.
Women are supposed to do X, Y, and Z. Rather than let women define what they want to do, our society tells men that women are supposed to do things. Believe it or not, this can make you feel like women aren’t people, but rather appliances. You might not even realize it when it’s happening.
Women are golddiggers. Oof. This is a common trope that is often matched with “wife bad” jokes.
If you keep being told you’re a misogynist, don’t assume women are wrong off the bat.
We often don’t realize how much society’s messages can make us internalize hate. It's the same with racism as it is with misogyny. You often have to detach yourself from the situation to recognize what’s up.
So, how can you figure out if you have misogyny in your mind when you might not actually mean harm to women? Take a look at these signs below…