So This Is How My Friend Group Died…
We were supposed to be lifelong friends. What the hell happened?
You know, I often hear that friendship is going to be there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. For the past 15 years or so, I had a clique of friends who I genuinely believed would be there until the day I died.
I met my husband thanks to that clique. I escaped slavery and stayed out thanks to that clique. I have countless hilarious memories thanks to that clique. And yet…here I am.
It only just dawned on me that no one from this particular group hit me up recently when my husband mentioned it this morning.
He said, “Didn’t you notice people stopped talking to us? The only people who still chat with us from that scene are Bodie*, Sam*, and Tiff*.”
It sank in.
Ouch.
Fuck.
What the hell happened? Looking back, I couldn’t help but notice that the warning signs were always there.
Part of the distancing happened when my husband and I got married.
So, I don’t have to explain that my weddings were all a shitshow. I really, really, really tried to grin and bear it. I even held an outdoor wedding so that my friends could be included despite being allergic to light.
I Don’t Care If It’s “Feminist.” I Resent My Godawful Weddings.
Can I just grieve the wedding that never was? Don’t take my feminist card away, please.medium.com
We all noticed that the people we tapped for help with this thing didn’t help. I’m still incredibly resentful that I actually had my dream of a nice wedding ripped away from me. I don’t think I’ll ever actually get a nice one, either.
We started to distance ourselves after that. I was so unbelievably upset that people couldn’t even stay sober or be helpful long enough for us to exchange vows. Eventually, I just got blitzed too. I just wanted to pass out and wake up so that the damn day would be over with.
But, it seems like the distancing was mutual.
Why? My two exes from the group, Arturo* and Stryker*, stopped talking to us. I haven’t heard from either of them in about two years. Incidentally, they also became way more hostile to my husband since then.