Why Do Men Think Feminists Hate Them?
We need to talk about the bad press feminism gets and what gets lost in translation.
I was shocked to find out that my friend, Trey*, was stunned to find out I’m a feminist. (I mean, bro. Have you read my writing?) So, we ended up talking about it and he was confused.
“Wait, you want to work?”
“Yes.”
“Why?”
“I want to work so that my husband can have a good life. We like having two incomes and the freedom it gives us.”
The ensuing conversation was one that was eye-opening for both me and him. When I told him that I want equal reproductive rights, equal pay, and equal custody for parents, he brought up several points that kind of backfired on him.
While he definitely has his own idea of having large families (versus my antinatalist views), the thing that really stood out was how often he felt like feminists were just against men.