After I was widowed, I ran around joining Meetups and thinking finding friends would be as easy as it was when I moved here in my mid-twenties.
It isn't. I made myself go here and I made myself go there, but nothing fit. Nothing clicked, nothing stuck, nothing worked. I think I've just become a person with such a narrow band of interests that I don't fit with normal people anymore. Also, young people aren't attached yet and can always bond over the shared miseries of dating. Older people already have their spouse, their kids, their friends, and their extended family. They don't need anybody else, and people's lives aren't all the same anymore with the first job and the dating.
I've pretty much accepted I don't click with anyone and am going to be alone. I'm working on making that okay with me.
After I was widowed, I ran around joining Meetups and thinking finding friends would be as easy as it was when I moved here in my mid-twenties.
It isn't. I made myself go here and I made myself go there, but nothing fit. Nothing clicked, nothing stuck, nothing worked. I think I've just become a person with such a narrow band of interests that I don't fit with normal people anymore. Also, young people aren't attached yet and can always bond over the shared miseries of dating. Older people already have their spouse, their kids, their friends, and their extended family. They don't need anybody else, and people's lives aren't all the same anymore with the first job and the dating.
I've pretty much accepted I don't click with anyone and am going to be alone. I'm working on making that okay with me.